Was I Complicit in the Abuse That I Suffered?
Examining the uncomfortable questions.
One of the many challenges of writing about your own experiences of domestic abuse is the flack that you cop in the comments. Of course there is always the option of ignoring them. The problem with that that for some of us, me included, the primary purpose in writing about our experiences is not to make money, but to impact lives.
And to impact lives you need to engage with people.
That’s why I write. I write because when I was trapped in the prison that is domestic abuse, I honestly believed that there was not one person out there that that would have been able to relate to my story, who would have believed me.
I was wrong, and that was a devastating reality to come to terms with.
In March I wrote this story about coercive control, a barely understood but insidious part of the fabric of abusive relationships.
Interestingly I wrote this story in four hours in an airport on my way home from a holiday with my now…
