Saying Farewell to Fearless She Wrote

Goodbye to the publication that gave me back my voice.

Matilda Fairholm
4 min readFeb 26, 2022
Image by Rawpixel.com purchased from Shutterstock

But how do you thank someone, who has taken you from crayons to perfume? It isn’t easy but I’ll try.

To Sir With Love, Lulu (1967)

I am currently working on two main writing projects. One, which will take as long as it takes, is a memoir of my experience of having my personhood gradually dismantled and discarded through the torture of coercive control. The other, which I would have submitted to Fearless She Wrote within the next two weeks, is a provocative piece which urges the doing away with the term “domestic violence” and replacing it with “coercive control”.

In it I make a case for this fundamental shift as a way to firstly raise community awareness and assist with a move towards criminalization of coercive control, but also to disempower the ‘men’s rights’, ‘father’s rights’ and other groups that passionately diminish the life-destroying effects of intimate partner violence and abuse and try to convince the world that men are victims as much as women.

It was while researching for this second project yesterday that I checked my less-used email account that is set up for my pseudonym and read a Patreon email to supporters letting me know that Gillian, Jessica and Maggie had made the…

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Matilda Fairholm

Writing to rescue others from the devastation of domestic abuse, and learning to live better. https://matildafairholm.medium.com/membership