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Trigger Warning: this article contains descriptions of sexual assault, abuse, and domestic violence that may not be suitable for all readers. Fearless community, please read with care.

It’s 5.32pm. I pull into the driveway and walk quickly to the front door. I’m late, I take a deep breath and brace…


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She had a laugh that would pierce the coldest soul, a unique beauty. She was a woman he believed he could ever attract. People liked her.

She never quite understood why.

She talked a lot, and just a little too loudly. She never met a stranger.

She did well at…


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Medium has just announced the much anticipated results of the Medium Writers Challenge and already the sour grapes are being harvested.

Sadly, just hours after the announcement was made, the most clapped comment on the Medium blog article is this:

“Victimhood pays”

Please.

The MWC was never about creating content…


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Trigger Warning: this article contains descriptions of domestic and emotional abuse that may not be suitable for all readers. Fearless community, please read with care.

In a fireproof room, just across from my corner office, are stored the Wills of literally thousands of clients of my firm who have entrusted…


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I’ve have had two experiences in the six years that I have been a Christ-follower that I am prepared to call supernatural interventions. I categorize them as miracles only because I cannot find an earthly explanation for either.

One of them happened at the time of my conversion, and the…


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If I had read the following slogan while I was still trapped in my first marriage I probably would have believed it. At that time in my life my true authentic self had been eradicated by long term coercive control. …


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I spent the first 43 years of my life as a somewhat nosy agnostic. I found what people believed intriguing, but never read or heard anything that convinced me that any particular faith or philosophy, out of the multitude of options, was the right one.

I never came to accept…


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It’s a tricky thing, writing about faith as a feminist. There is a large school of thought out there, both in the feminist and Christian worlds, that considers the two things to be mutually exclusive. …


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For some time I’ve been intrigued by a sector of the men’s rights movement that focuses on, I would say obsesses over, domestic violence. They have created a movement based on their alleged desire to ensure that all victims are heard, supported and protected.

It sounds genuine enough, until you…


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One of my favorite television commercials, is an ad encouraging Australians to visit Melbourne. A woman leaves her hotel with a ball of yarn bigger than she is, gradually unrolling it as she navigates the wonders of Australia’s most (in my humble opinion) culturally rich city.

Mirroring life, her red…

Matilda Fairholm

Writing to rescue others from the devastation of domestic abuse, and learning to live better. https://matildafairholm.medium.com/membership

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